Dating Man

Pretentiousness apply to both men as well as women. Women too put on their “best side” during a courtship. They also hide many characteristics, which according to them, may make them less attractive. Others may not even be aware of their actions but, involuntarily and without any ulterior purpose hide certain facets of their traits and habits for the fear of losing the man.

It may sound slightly harsh but it’s a fact of life that women do try their wiliness on men, especially naive men. Women who are glamorous and heavenly to look at, know it themselves. They also know that they attract men like bees to a hive. But it all depends on the particular woman and her attitude, to reveal her true self, behind that thick layer of make-up, and come upfront to face the man.

In the real world, things do not normally happen in this way. Here’s why: you sweep a man off his feet with your glamour and dazzle. He starts seeing in you the woman of his dreams. Pursuit begins. Like many he also starts to please you desperately, buying you gifts, holidays, shopping bills, expensive dinners, casinos, and the list goes on.

You are extremely happy with the way he woos you, and the all-expense-paid good time that you are having with him. Men are of the opinion that socially and physically appealing women are flooded with dating proposals. So to be on top of her list, a man goes out of his way to impress her in every possible way. After a few months of this whirlwind courtship, you are more or less sure that he has fallen in love with you.

But has he seen the you with you – your true self? Indeed, a man gets swayed with the outside veneer of glamour, beauty and charm and he always wants to be ahead of his yet-unseen competitors. The primitive spirit of “conquer” prevails in the man and the thirst for sexual gratification with the most coveted woman haunts him.

Yet most of us are fully aware that this kind of euphoria is temporary. No matter how memorable the sex between the two of you might have been, the thrill soon fades. It’s not that the man does not find the woman charming and appealing, he definitely does but he looks for something that goes beyond sex – he is looking for something more tangible in the woman, so as to keep his interest alive. Now here at this stage, if you hide your other good qualities from him, you might soon lose him to your competitor.

Here are five proven ways to keep his interest alive.

1. Remember to show your true self, the inner beauty that you have, in the initial stages of your relationship, before his interest in you wears off.

2. Try and involve him in activities other than the usual rounds of pubs, nightclubs, restaurants and theatres. Call him over to be a part of your daily pursuits, like morning walks, jogging, work out at the gym or even the volunteer activities at the local community centre. Let him experience the various other aspects of your life.

3. Find out more about his intellect. See if he can make some meaningful conversations on topics other than the two of you. Politics, religion, education, pool, just about anything, which are of mutual interest. If his participation is active and there happens a healthy debate, it is sure that he also has similar communication needs like you and enjoys your company in simply talking.

4. Invite some close friends to join you, the next time both of you go on a date. He loves to see you flourish in your own surrounding, and loves watching you interact with others.

5. Lastly never agree to a steady relationship unless you are hundred percent sure that he knows as many sides of you as possible. Ensure that he has seen those wonderful qualities you have which can sustain his interests on a long term basis. Because these are the points which can help the relationship culminate into something long-lasting, after the initial euphoric period is over.